slice of life

 During all my years of elementary school, I never once imagined the life of my teacher outside of the classroom. What did they do when I left school and went home? Did they walk their dogs? Play with their kids? Read books? It didn’t occur to me to even imagine it. 

It wasn’t until seventh grade that I saw one of my teachers as a living breathing person who existed beyond the four walls of the classroom. Miss Larrabee taught Civics and Pennsylvania history, and we knew who her favorite band was.  We knew her favorite place to get pizza. The books she liked, the TV shows she watched.  She talked to us like we were people, deserving of her time and attention.  She asked our opinions. She told us stories, and wanted to hear ours. 

And I do believe it’s possible, that I remember a little more about PA Civics than seventh grade English or intro to biology, because I remember Miss Larrabee. She was a real person. She knew us. But maybe even more than that, we knew her. 


Somewhere in the first year as new teachers, we inevitably get taken aside by a seasoned colleague who scolds us out of any notion that we should get personal with our students. You’re not their friend. Your personal life is just that…personal. There’s a line between you and them. Don’t cross it. 

And although there is much wisdom in the intent behind these words of advice, we know that teaching and learning are intensely personal.  To completely separate our lives outside of the classroom from what happens in the classroom is, in our opinion, a mistake.

Reading and writing are two aspects of our personal lives that help us forge personal connections with students.

We know our students’ reading lives can be enriched when we share our own reading lives. They know what we’re reading right now and what is on our TBR stacks.  They know that Mrs. Brittin cries at the end of every book, and that Mrs. Salay loves books about animals.  We gush over our favorites and tell them when we abandon books as well.  And we celebrate when a student comes to one of us and says, “You have to read this. I think you will love this book.”


We share our writing lives too. Whether it be our writer’s notebooks, writing along with students, or talking about a personal writing project, students benefit from seeing the writerly lives that we live in and out of school.


When my grandmother passed away last year, I was devastated. I found it difficult in the weeks following her passing to maintain my usual upbeat demeanor with my students. So I took to my writer’s notebook, writing entry after entry…short, long, poetry, prose. I wrote until I had written everything. And then I showed my students. 


Our reading and writing lives are just one way to connect with our students in and out of school. If students see that teaching and learning are personal for us, they may be more likely to reach outside the walls of the classroom to make their own learning rich with relevance for their own lives.


We would love to hear the ways that you connect with your students.

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~ Jen and Darla


7 thoughts on “Personal

  1. Teachers as living, breathing people- lol.
    I think connecting to students through being personal with them is paramount to their success. I really do. Even as a lit coach, students in my buildings know about me and I do my best to know as much about them as I can. There is nothing like walking past a student in the hall and seeing them so excited to share a book with me or ask me if they can see a new pic of my daughter. Both are important.


  2. I had that same experience as a kid. I remember being shocked and embarrassed when I saw my 5th-grade teacher in a store. I don’t believe it was until high school that I got more of a glimpse of who my teachers were as people. And I agree, I remember more about the subject matter taught by those teachers. I think it is all about the connections we make with our students. The better our relationship, the better teacher we are. Thanks for making me think back!


  3. I agree – relationships do indeed matter. It is the conversations we have with our students that allow them to see us as people outside of school, and us to see them as so much more than a student. Your line, “teaching and learning are intensely personal” says it all – a personal connection supports learning. I can’t imaging not getting to know my students. Thank you for such a thoughtful post.


  4. What a great a post! Your mentioning of how connecting with your 7th grade teacher helped you connect more to the content is right on! We all interpret the way people speak to us, treat us, and ultimately respect us. I always believe that talking to students as adults is the most powerful think for them to hear!


  5. It’s a two – way street isn’t it? We need to know more about our kids to teach them better, and they need to know about us to make the connection they need to truly learn. Wonderful post!


  6. Great post!! And so true! I clearly remember being told not to “try to be their friends.” I also remember getting the advice, “Don’t smile for the first month of school.” I totally agree with you.


  7. I believe in many ways that I will always be their teacher, and always be their friend. This is the spirit with which I lead them daily. We enter this relationship when they are in 3rd grade, but I hope the bonds forged are everlasting. When they invite me to high school graduations, I know that our connection was more than teacher-student. It was personal.

    I love especially that you highlighted the bonds we forge through our reading and writing lives shared! This is such an important point! Sharing our authentic writing, and our passion for stories help connect our students to us, and vice versa.


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